Saturday, 25 May 2013

Creating a space you belong in

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As you enter the room, you are presented with a grotto. Fairy lights cast shadows across the various band posters and frozen smiles captured in photographs cover the walls. It would appear a full suitcase decided to take it’s own life here some days ago, spattering it’s contents across every surface. A stack of papers followed suit shortly after. Half-drunk cups of tea and a hint of incense create a strange sweet aroma. This is my home, my personality embodied in a two by four meter room.

Although we sentimentalize our childhood environments, as adults many question the significance of having a space to call our own, or the wider importance of architecture. Skepticism of interior design is common; what really is the significance of curtain colour or sofa size? It doesn’t help that there are hugely negative connotations attached with valuing appearances and aesthetic, because we associate these qualities with vanity and superficiality. Personally, an increasing fear that I will adopt an entirely materialist paradigm drives me to spend my money on experiences rather than objects, but I still struggle to cleanse my environment of impractical sentimental hindrances and find myself going into credit card debt for the sake of Liz Willoughby-Martin prints.

Ancient Greek Philosopher Epictetus asks; ‘If you really understand what governs the universe, how can you yearn for bits of stone and pretty rock?’ It seems an inappropriate subject to broach with his distraught best friend, whose house has just burnt down, but the question holds value all the same. To survive all you really need is warmth, food, sunlight, and a comfortable enough pile of leaves to get your recommended eight hours a night. Countless religious figures have cleansed themselves of distractions and possessions in order to achieve some higher appreciation of life. So why do we hold onto so much crap? If peace is found in simplicity, why I do sleep better after a cup of tea and an episode of Friends in a room lit by candles?

Maybe this desirable sense of peace is found through a practical employment of space, rather than a personal. One of my greatest frustrations is beautiful but impractical furniture. Easily-jammed draws and a bora-ridden rack fail to contain my clothing, my desk is too small and I only have one bloody power socket. How am I ever to charge my laptop, phone, ipod, and kindle while listening to my record player and radio simultaneously?! These small inconveniences make my life a little trickier than they could be, but I don’t think that that’s why I dislike them. I think I dislike them because the excess clothes strewn around the room and the visible power chords make my personal space feel chaotic when it should act as a refuge, a place of peace.

Perhaps we should simply rejoice in the fact that happy coincidences reconcile the practical with the beautiful sometimes. The house has windows to let in light, but also to allow us to look out over the valley while we eat our breakfast. The ceilings have lighting fixtures to hold light bulbs, but these also present a wonderful opportunity for a tasseled lampshade, or somewhere to hang streamers on someone’s birthday. The doors help muffle the sounds of flat mates making 3am toasties, but also provide a sense of undisturbed serenity and privacy. The locks on those doors keep out thieves, but more often are employed to simply allow us to choose to spend time alone when we need it.

So how do we create a space we love being in within the confines of a student flat environment? Ninth wave online, in their article ‘Life, Space and the Energy of your Mind,’ (not even kidding,) recommend four steps for creating the space you want to reflect who you are; 
1) Live with what you love, 
2) Make sure everything around you is safe and comfortable, 
3) Express yourself creatively and 
4) Organize everything, 
which translates into keeping your space clear, safe, clean, comfortable, and personal, all of which I can get behind. If you’re looking for a one step solution, just head down to Japan city, get some lanterns and some plywood animals, which you can express your creativity by assembling, but will also brighten up your space! #craftnight

What your room says about you to others is of course also a concern, we’ve all had our parents accidentally see the nude calendar in the lounge, or had to laugh off a stack of cups by the bed. To counter this issue I return to the words of misc. Health teacher circa 2009, ‘If someone doesn’t like you for who you are then they might not be someone you want to have sex with anyway,’ so you probably needn’t worry about what other people think of your bedroom, you’re the one who has to spend time in it, and even then you might be mostly unconscious.

Having a personal space that we feel we belong in is a lot more important than a logical critique would suggest therefore, and is relatively easy to achieve. I will adamantly rejoice in my messy bedroom, and I will love the things that seem silly to hold on to. I would ask you to review your space, and how you use it, and endeavor to create a place where you feel entirely yourself, and not the person your parents or employer or partner want you to be. This reads as an awfully philosophical way to justify how rarely I tidy my room, but seriously, pin ticket stubs to your walls, hang posters and photos and dream catchers, keep your teddy bears and childhood books and postcards, because your room reflects who you are, and, as the environmental equivalent of a vacant facial expression, there is nothing more dull than an empty space.

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